So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key
“Already Gone,” by The Eagles
What one change could you make in your life that would produce the greatest benefits for you and your loved ones?
Think about those benefits.
How would your life be better?
How would you be better equipped to help others?
What is standing in your way of making that change?
Make a list of all those things on a sheet of paper.
Now go back and look at that list. Cross off everything that you have no control over.
Examine each item that you crossed off.
If you have any influence on that item, put it back on the list.
Take another piece of paper. Write “Obstacles” across the top.
Copy all the obstacles to the new sheet.
Once you’ve finished, cross out “Obstacles” and replace it with “Excuses.”
Read through your list again reframing each obstacle as an excuse.
Now, imagine that this is not your list but the list of a good friend.
Make a new list of specific actions you would suggest to your friend to help them make that change.
Cut through their excuses and show them how they can begin to see this important change take place in their life.
Circle the two or three most important actions that will produce the greatest benefit for this dear friend.
Remind your friend that small changes made consistently are more powerful than attempts to make big changes.
Tell your friend how much you care about them and how much you want them to have the life they deserve.
Remind them of other difficult changes they have made before.
Assure them that they have your full support in making this important change.
Explain how you will hold them accountable but at the same time never condemn them for their setbacks.
Now, find a mirror and look your dear friend in the eye and allow your compassion to flow out and wash over them.
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